When supporting a loved one struggling with addiction, it is common to have concerns and uncertainty about how best to help.

Here, Clinical Psychologist, Dr Will Barber addresses what families should understand about addiction, and how loved ones can play a supportive role in the lives of someone in recovery.

How can you support a loved one experiencing addiction?

When someone you care about is struggling with drugs or alcohol, you may feel worried, sad or frustrated, particularly if change seems slow. You might be unsure what to say or how best to help.

You don’t need to be an expert. Offering kindness, compassion and a space to talk without judgement can make a difference. Addiction can involve shame and secrecy, so listening openly can help someone feel more able to share what they are going through. You can also offer support with accessing professional help, whether through therapy or a medical professional.

Respecting everyday choices matters too. If someone says, “I’m not drinking today,” accept their decision without pressing them for an explanation or encouraging them to have “just one”. They may be making a difficult change that they are not ready to discuss.

Patience is also important. When progress is hard to see, it can be tempting to assume someone isn’t trying hard enough or doesn’t have enough willpower. But recovery involves changing patterns of behaviour that may have developed and become deeply ingrained over many years.

Change takes time, and the effort someone is making may not always be visible. Offering understanding and recognising that progress can be gradual are valuable ways to support them.

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